Four years ago I worked for a non-profit organization whose mission was to serve the under-served youths from low income families. After programming one evening, one of children just barely left the faucet running in the women’s restroom. Unaware of the dripping faucet, everyone left the building only to return the next day and find the lovely bamboo wood floors damaged. Now, this was a pretty big deal because the organization had been a recipient of an Extreme Makeover: Home Edition and no one was familiar with the type of floor or even where the floor had been purchased. After much research, which consisted of digging through boxes in an old, hot storage unit reading multiple emails and making several calls that resulted in the organization finally filing an insurance claim. The contractor wasn’t able to find an exact match for the floor, so the entire first-floor flooring had to be replaced. There was an overwhelming sense of disappointment amongst the staff once we realized the floor wouldn’t be the same. And although I wasn’t present during the original renovation I understood why disappointment was there.
Like the faucet in the women’s room, we too can find ourselves with a slow leak after relationships go sour. Often our hearts are left in an unhealthy condition, and we move forward into the next relationship leaking bitterness, anger, and pain. Then we try to figure out what happened, how it happened, and how we can prevent it from happening again. But unfortunately this search leads to us depend too much on our own “protective” abilities rather than placing our dependency on God.
Unlike the contractor who wasn’t able to find the exact match for the bamboo flooring, we serve a God who knows the very fabric of our being. We don’t have to waste time searching for the pieces of our souls because our God is willing & able to restore every damaged piece.
For the past three days we’ve really reflected on her, but today we will focus on releasing the pain of disappointment. I know we’ve been able to move on. In fact, I am aware that some of these relationships may never be the same, but the hope is that we take the focus off of what happened between you & her. Once you do that you’re properly positioned to receive the gift of restoration that is available to all. We are working on being restored back to a place of trusting God with our relationships. He is the author and finisher of our faith. He knows you. He knows me. And he cares deeply for us all. Here’s the great news- the moment we let go, we are able to embrace the peace that God has for us on the other side of disappointment.
Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.
Declaration: No longer will we allow the leak in our souls to cause us to slip away from God. We will not take on life alone, instead we will lean to Holy Spirit and he will lead us into all truth.
Search the scriptures and find a scripture or two to stand on regarding disappointment. Believe me, the sting of disappointment will try to creep up again, but let us be wise by planting ourselves in the word.
Pray and ask God to help you release the pain of disappointment.
Repeating and recalling lines from your favorite movie can be exciting. I’ve never been really good at remembering movie lines, however I’m guilty of replaying and repeating situations that have disappointed me.
The longer I replay the tapes, the less I remember about my actions. In fact my actions became excusable in most cases, because in my mind they were only in response to what was said or done to me.
Have you ever had the opportunity to discuss a past confrontation with the one you were in conflict with? Most of the times the stories aren’t identical. Both parties typically focus on the “wrong” that was done to them, and embracing victim role becomes the the easiest solution.
Declaration: We are no longer slaves to past hurts, anger, or fear. We are no longer victims but overcomers. We will walk in the truth of God’s word and stand on every promise he has made. No longer will we find comfort in negativity , but we will stand boldly and say that we are free from the chains of resentment, unforgivness, and doubt.
Then, you will know the truth and the truth shall set you free.
Unmet expectations and disappointments can bury the treasures of friendship. What was once a blooming and exciting relationship has been reduce to casual smiles, maybe a text here or there, or nothing at all. Today we will focus on identifying things that made your relationship with that person so awesome.
May be she is an extremely generous person, and throughout your relationship not only were you a beneficiary of her generosity but you also became a student of it. She literally taught you through action and you now can see traces of that in your life. Although the friendship may have changed or even may be over, it does not change the impact that the relationship once had.
Declaration: I will no longer allow disappointments to rob me of the truth about people. Yes people are flawed and so am I. These flaws didn’t stop Jesus from going to the cross, and it will not stop me from loving people as he has commanded.
As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.
Today’s Focus: Identify and write down things that she brought to the friendship. Did those things impact you? Pray for her.
Have you ever been in a friendship that went sour? The level of disappointment and pain that comes from ending these relationships can uproot the very foundation on which we should build all relationships.
Today, think of at least one friend you seriously miss HER. Be completely honest with this. You guys shared some awesome times and memories together but things aren’t the same. Maybe you both agreed to move on or the calls and texts just stopped coming. Whatever the situation may be, take a deep breathe and say I MISS HER.
Saying this doesn’t require you to tell her or even share it on social media. It’s just for you my friend. I know this seems so simple but this verbal admission has the power to release a level of freedom needed to move forward with this process. The actual friendship may have dissolved, but your desire for HER to have the best in life shouldn’t.
Declaration: I will no longer walk away from relationships with the value of that person in my hand. I do not have the right to devalue what God values. She is just as valuable as me!
The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”