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October 7, 2017

There’s no denying that Hurricane Katrina came through Louisiana and forever changed the lives of many people. Many lives were lost, families were separated, and homes destroyed. I vividly remember my family traveling to Baton Rouge to take shelter with us. Originally they wanted to stay and ride out the storm, but at the last minute decided it was best to leave due the predicted damage that was to come. 

My parents, two brothers, and I lived in a three bedroom apartment, so you could image how cramped we were when six additional people joined us. It was an experience I will never forget. Gathered in our cozy living room, we watched the news day in and day out. The agony was breathtaking. I recall googling an aerial view of my grandparents’ neighborhood and we could literally see the house under water. Sixty plus years of home investments and memories gone. 

Many are aware that Hurricane Katrina came with tons of power, but it wasn’t her power alone that brought this tremendous amount of damage. It was the storm surge and levee failure that rocked the foundation of New Orleans. Water flooded into the city for days, and residents had to wait weeks before they could return to their homes. Once families could return, the restoration process could begin. The foundation of each home had to be checked for substainabilty, and some families opted to lift their homes. 

Like these families who experienced great loss, we too can feel this level of pain in relationships. Having spent time investing into a relationship only to have it flooded with disappointment. Yesterday, we discussed restoring ourselves back to trusting God. Only God can heal and protect us in and through relationships. 

Today, we will do a foundation check. Ask yourself the questions below:

  1. Have I been depending on my own strength in relationships? 
  2. Have I been depending on people to make me happy? 

My friend, Holy Spirit is our constant companion and he can and will direct us in how to conduct ourselves in relationships. With his help we have the ability to set guard rails around our relationships. These guard rails are put in place to help us recognize when our trust is being shifted from God onto people. 

If your foundation has been damaged or was never built correctly from the beginning, I have great news! it’s not too late to get things corrected. Your foundation may have been built on the right foundation, but the flood of disappointment has caused weakness. You may have never built your foundation on God, instead you built it through your own strengths and abilities. Whatever the case, it’s time to allow God to restore you.

Everyone then who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. 25 And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.

Matthew 7:24-25

Declaration: Father, I refuse to do anything without you. Your word promises that If I build on you (your word) I will not fall. You provide stability in all things. When things are uncomfortable I will remain in you. I will not allow my emotions to dictate how I respond to disappointment. Thank you for restoration Father. 

Today’s Focus:

  • Get familiar with the above scripture. Write it down and repeat it. This will help it get into your heart.
  • Invite God in to restore you.



    October 5, 2017

    Four years ago I worked for a non-profit organization whose mission was to serve the under-served youths from low income families. After programming one evening, one of children just barely left the faucet running in the women’s restroom. Unaware of the dripping faucet, everyone left the building only to return the next day and find the lovely bamboo wood floors damaged. Now, this was a pretty big deal because the organization had been a recipient of an Extreme Makeover: Home Edition and no one was familiar with the type of floor or even where the floor had been purchased. After much research, which consisted of digging through boxes in an old, hot storage unit reading multiple emails and making several calls that resulted in the organization finally filing an insurance claim. The contractor wasn’t able to find an exact match for the floor, so the entire first-floor flooring had to be replaced. There was an overwhelming sense of disappointment amongst the staff once we realized the floor wouldn’t be the same. And although I wasn’t present during the original renovation I understood why disappointment was there. 

    Like the faucet in the women’s room, we too can find ourselves with a slow leak after relationships go sour. Often our hearts are left in an unhealthy condition, and we move forward into the next relationship leaking bitterness, anger, and pain. Then we try to figure out what happened, how it happened, and how we can prevent it from happening again. But unfortunately this search leads to us depend too much on our own “protective” abilities rather than placing our dependency on God

    Unlike the contractor who wasn’t able to find the exact match for the bamboo flooring, we serve a God who knows the very fabric of our being. We don’t have to waste time searching for the pieces of our souls because our God is willing & able to restore every damaged piece.

    For the past three days we’ve really reflected on her, but today we will focus on releasing the pain of disappointment. I know we’ve been able to move on. In fact, I am aware that some of these relationships may never be the same, but the hope is that we take the focus off of what happened between you & her. Once you do that you’re properly positioned to receive the gift of restoration that is available to all. We are working on being restored back to a place of trusting God with our relationships. He is the author and finisher of our faith. He knows you. He knows me. And he cares deeply for us all. Here’s the great news- the moment we let go, we are able to embrace the peace that God has for us on the other side of disappointment. 

    Give your burdens to the Lord, and he will take care of you. He will not permit the godly to slip and fall.

    Psalms 55:22 

    Declaration: No longer will we allow the leak in our souls to cause us to slip away from God. We will not take on life alone, instead we will lean to Holy Spirit and he will lead us into all truth. 

    Today’s Focus:

    • Search the scriptures and find a scripture or two to stand on regarding disappointment. Believe me, the sting of disappointment will try to creep up again, but let us be wise by planting ourselves in the word. 

    • Pray and ask God to help you release the pain of disappointment.  



    October 4, 2017

    Repeating and recalling lines from your favorite movie can be exciting. I’ve never been really good at remembering movie lines, however I’m guilty of replaying and repeating situations that have disappointed me. 

    The longer I replay the tapes, the less I remember about my actions. In fact my actions became excusable in most cases, because in my mind they were only in response to what was said or done to me. 

    Have you ever had the opportunity to discuss a past confrontation with the one you were in conflict with? Most of the times the stories aren’t identical. Both parties typically focus on the “wrong” that was done to them, and embracing victim role becomes the the easiest solution.

    Declaration: We are no longer slaves to past hurts, anger, or fear. We are no longer victims but overcomers. We will walk in the truth of God’s word and stand on every promise he has made. No longer will we find comfort in negativity , but we will stand boldly and say that we are free from the chains of resentment, unforgivness, and doubt. 

    Then, you will know the truth and the truth shall set you free. 

    John 8:32 

    Today’s Focus: Journal about one of your favorite past times with HER. Pray for HER. 



    October 3, 2017

    Unmet expectations and disappointments can bury the treasures of friendship. What was once a blooming and exciting relationship has been reduce to casual smiles, maybe a text here or there, or nothing at all. Today we will focus on identifying things that made your relationship with that person so awesome.

    May be she is an extremely generous person, and throughout your relationship not only were you a beneficiary of her generosity but you also became a student of it. She literally taught you through action and you now can see traces of that in your life. Although the friendship may have changed or even may be over, it does not change the impact that the relationship once had. 

    Declaration: I will no longer allow disappointments to rob me of the truth about people. Yes people are flawed and so am I. These flaws didn’t stop Jesus from going to the cross, and it will not stop me from loving people as he has commanded.  

    As iron sharpens iron, so a friend sharpens a friend.

    Proverbs 27:17

    Today’s Focus: Identify and write down things that she brought to the friendship. Did those things impact you? Pray for her.