Browsing Category

Growth

Growth, Life Lessons

ORDER UP!!!

May 27, 2017

The polls are out and most seem to agree that moving sucks! Moving from one place to another in the same state can be a very overwhelming process. But moving from state to another state is like spring cleaning on steroids! February 2016 my family and I made it official… we now call Louisiana home again. Not many were aware of the year long process we went through before the official move took place. 

I received the initial orders back in January 2015. To say that I was confused with this new set of orders from God is an understatement. HE was the one who told me to move to the DMV area in the first place. My life was sweet just the way it was. Five years living in Maryland had done my life real good. The growth from December 2010 to January 2016 had been great and I was looking forward to more….and then the orders changed. 

Now I will tell you that one of my first thoughts were to ignore the orders. I mean wouldn’t God understand if I explained why I wanted to stay and give more of my supply to my local ministry? If I promised to appreciate my friends (who had basically become family) more? Surly he would change his mind, right?? NOT! 

Following these new set of orders hasn’t been easy. It has stretched us in ways we never could’ve imagine. Who knew it would take six months for Marquis (my husband) to find a job? Who knew that being around family would prove itself challenging? No one told me that the absence of friends would hurt so bad, and the effort to make new ones would be so overwhelming. 

A place I once called home has often felt like a foreign land. There have been times where I feel like the wind has been knocked out of me in the middle of a dessert without water. While I still don’t know all that this new season has in store for my family and I…I find peace in knowing that God created the orders. Here’s a summary of a few lessons I’ve learned since obeying them. I hope they bless  you as much as they have blessed me. 

1. You can be stretched and strengthened at the same time.

2. Unwavering faith is water to a thirsty soul. 

3. You don’t have to understand to obey

What are your orders? I would love to hear from you!

Signed,

God’s Daughter.  His wife. Their mother. Your friend.

Growth, Life Lessons

 Bold isn’t always cute

May 20, 2017

That moment you realize that boldness isn’t always cute, what  will you do?

For years I was proud of being BOLD and I hated when people felt like I had a nasty attitude. 

I’ve learned that self-control should always be a companion to boldness. Yes, God has given me freedom, but that freedom should always breed life. I began to notice that my boldness wasn’t always producing life, in fact it was killing some things around me.

I’ve made a conscious decision to employ self-control. It does not hold me back, instead it keeps my heart surrendered to God. It’s a reminder that my life is not my own, and I do not have the right to say what I want to say – how I want to say it. It empowers me to consider my thoughts and take an accurate assessment of my feelings before expressing them. Employing self-control quite frankly has single handedly improved my relationships (still have room to grow) with others. In fact I would dare to say that it has caused the love meter in my marriage to increase.

So while I am a huge supporter of being BOLD, I am equally inclined to encourage others to partner boldness with self-control. The amount of victories I have experienced since making this adjustment has been unbelievable. Please don’t think this was an easy process. It took much intentionality and focus. Here are a few things that have helped me along the way:

1. Considere the direction of your boldness. Is it about you believing in yourself or proving yourself? 

Believing in yourself is internally connected to believing what God has placed inside of you. Being confident in that and not allowing anything or anyone to take away that belief (which in fact really is a knowing).

Proving yourself often requires you to misuse the energy required for knowing who you are and waste it trying to convince others (and yourself at times) who you are. Which in turn creates a hostile environment for the true you to flourish. 

2. Boldness is greater than but not equal to a nasty attitude 

For some reason I thought being bold required me to be firm and loud. As if raising my voice would help me get my point across. Yeah maybe I was heard, but it didn’t guantee I would be understood. 

I had to decide what was most important- to be heard or to be understood. In my boldness I typically believe I am right and justified, which automatically makes the other individual(s) wrong and unjustified. But if I really think I am right and my ultimate goal is to “help” the other person, my approach has to be one of teaching and not judgement. 

Dropping my desire to be right has cleansed my attitude, and now my boldness requires me to consider the individual(s) on the other end of it.

3. Is your boldness teachable?

No matter how grounded I am in what I know about God, myself, and others-it is my desire to remain soft enough to learn new things and to remain open to greater understanding. I never want my own attitude to be the enemy to increase in my life or others’ lives. 

Signed,

God’s daughter. His wife. Their mother. Your friend

Growth

The Journey

February 5, 2014
I grow in a generation where most people desire instant gratification…some are waiting on their next BIG opportunity; others are looking to develop their next BIG move; and others quite frankly believe that God is going to hand everything to them. Over the past few days I’ve began to really search for the position of my heart regarding “The Journey” of life. I began to recognize that while days, weeks, and months have come and went…many times I’ve overlooked my progress.
Have you ever prayed to God for a new job? Peace of mind? New relationships? In my recent observation of my life I realized that I’m guilty of praying for things and just sitting and waiting for God to “make it happen” instead of embracing the manifestation process. Additionally, I began to recognize that there have been times where I’ve simply checked out spiritually, physically, and emotionally while waiting on the manifestation of my prayer(s).
During my time of reflection I identified a few benefits of embracing “The Journey”.
(1)Chains are broken
(2) Habits (good and bad) are removed
(3) Peace is restoredI am not sure if many of us recognize or even appreciate the benefits of “The Journey”; but it is during this time that God is making ALL things new regarding the position of your heart (another day…another blog). Looking back I realize it has never been my intent to overlook the faithfulness of God; however that’s exactly what I had grown accustomed to doing. Today I encourage you all to take time to embrace “The Journey”. I promise you won’t regret it and most of all you will thank God for the peace, perseverance, and wisdom HE provides during “Your Journey”.
Signed,
 
God’s daughter. His wife. Their mother. Your friend